About Peta
"The greatest pleasure in life is
doing what people say you cannot do."
Walter Bagehot
| About my work and a
little about me |
| My beliefs,
qualities and goals |
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The
coaching work I do with people is about helping them to embody
themselves at their best. When I flirt with people its about making them feel so
good that they love being with me. The work we do on the flirting events is
about you and your potential to learn the art of flirting and bring more joy,
success, fun and love into your life and the lives of people around you.
And if you are to learn with me then its only natural that you
might want to know a little about me. So, here goes.
I am a natural flirt. I am as convinced of it in the same way
I am convinced I have to breathe air to survive.
I was born in 1952 [ Feb 22 - Pisces with Leo rising!] and
have led a sometimes wild, sometimes settled, sometimes exciting and rich
life!
I first came to personal development about 15 years ago. For over 10 years, I
have been in the business of facilitating people to learn and improve
themselves.
Before that I had many different and varied jobs being a
secretary [not ME], doing in-store demos, I ran my own restaurant, worked on
the George Michael Faith tour, made computer learning videos in Sweden AND at
the tender age of 23, working as an Assistant Editor of Forum magazine - I
shared an office with Anna Raeburn and my editor was Phillip Hodson both
of whom went on to carve out successful careers in therapy, writing and
broadcasting. They were instrumental in my development as is everyone we meet
on our life path.
I have done extensive training with Richard Bandler, the
originator of NLP, and am constantly updating my methods and learning new skills
and attitudes..
I believe that people only learn well when they are having
great fun and are working in a safe-ish [some risks are important] environment
where they can experiment wantonly, beyond what they will need to be able to do
outside of a workshop or seminar.
Many years ago, when I complained to a great friend that I was
feeling depressed about what I wasn't doing with my life, he turned to me and
said "But Peta, you are a success as a person and that's what counts". These
words helped me through a rough patch and defined what I believe about people.
You all have inside you the potential to be a tremendous success.
I believe that when we focus on what we want we begin to use
our energies unconsciously towards achieving our purpose. I also believe that we
have within us everything we need to achieve success in whatever way you define
it.
I believe that we were all gifted at birth with a multitude of
natural talents, many of which we have failed to use. For example, we all have
psychic abilities but modern communications from writing to telephones and
computers have made it unnecessary to use this talent.
We are all natural flirts, but many of us have repressed this
ability because of our own fears or social conditions. I believe that, with the
right training, we can all regain the ability to flirt and use it to build new
friendships and relationships and bring more love and fun into your life.
Six years ago, after reading hundreds of books on self
improvement, starting with Wishcraft by Barbara Sher
I began studying with many of the most respected trainers in personal
development today.
Some of the great trainers I have worked with are,
Richard Bandler, originator of
NLP, John Grinder, co-founder of NLP, Tony Robbins, top motivational speaker and
coach to Princess Diana and other celebs, Paul McKenna, the world's most famous
hypnotist. and Michael Breen, of
McKenna-Breen. Terry Tillman of Insight seminars,
Joseph Riggio, John LaValle and
many more. Each one of them has taught me something new and wonderful and helped
me to shape the way I am today.
I began to assimilate and use the technology and attitudes of
Neuro-Linguistic Programming. For the last two years I have been researching
people and their basic habits, wants and behaviours. At the same time I was
looking for a formula that would allow me to use my skills and research to
facilitate something valuable in people. I looked at what I was good at and what
I enjoyed doing and what people needed.
The Flirting Weekend was the result of my quest and the book Flirt Coach [based
on the process used on the weekend, followed on from there. This is no
ordinary weekend and it is not two days of learning how to wink or give
signals. It is a deep level personal development weekend which is loads of fun
and has got results for many people. What I bring extra to my work is my
inimitable energy, enthusiasm, inspiration and motivation.... Flirting is
something you live...it is something you radiate constantly and it is evident in
the person as soon as you meet them.
I flirt with everyone and always have done. I talk to
strangers, I connect with men, women, old people, children, cats and dogs and I
actively seek out situations where there will be an opportunity to meet new
people. I flirt sexually with men I want sexually and I flirt semi-sexually with
men I know and trust. But whether your flirting is sexually motivated or just
reaching out to communicate, making other people feel good will make you feel
good. I thoroughly enjoy it and it gets me what I need when I need it.
What one human being is able to do, another can learn to do
but more importantly, what you were gifted from birth to do, you can uncover and
relearn to do... It's about developing the right state of mind, useful beliefs
and then specific people skills. And you have the abilities to learn it all. I
have studied people that I consider to be flirtatious and have found that there
are certain factors that we all have in common.
- Great flirts love meeting people
- Great flirts come alive when they walk
into any situation where they have the opportunity to communicate
- Great flirts believe they have something to
offer the world
- Great flirts know how to make themselves
feel good when they are around people
- Great flirts know how to make people we
like feel so good that they just enjoy being with us.
- Great flirts just resonate and attract.
You too have this potential and I look forward
to helping you to become a glorious flirt
My Intent
To facilitate others to follow their bliss
and to reach their full potential - thus facilitating even more growth in
myself. To be remembered for having made a difference in the lives of others
and for having been a light to many people. To open doors for people and have
more fun, laughter, love and adventure in the world.
Beliefs
When you are who you are fully and live from that space life will work out just
as it is meant to and it will all be wonderful
If you want to learn something, teach it
Learning is for life
Each person has a special talent which is waiting to be born, nurtured and
developed
My body is my temple, I must not treat it like a dustbin [I'm working on this
one! - hey! no one's perfect!]
Laughter costs nothing yet the rewards are rich
Forgiveness is freedom from slavery
Life is an adventure - step into it before it's too late
You cannot teach/instruct or train, in the traditional sense of those words, you
can only facilitate learning
Living your dreams in your head will manifest them in reality
We are all linked and together we can make a difference
The universe is one energy and we are part of that
You can't change others but you can change YOU!
Life's too short to hoover!
Qualities
Ability to inspire others
Ability to laugh at myself
Always an analogy or a story to hand
Curiosity
A desire for adventure
Trying out new things
Spontaneity
Helping people to help themselves
Thirst for learning
Enthusiasm
Flexibility
Creative
Great public speaker
Super-Connector [networking!]
Seeing several sides of a coin
Transmission of energy
Unique, inspirational writing style
Vision
Warmth
Goals - Career
To do the work I love, and love the work I do
To be a successful agent of change for the better
To write best-selling books that will help others in their self-development and
provide a pension for me to continue 'work' until I die!
To appear on the lecture circuit as an 'expert' in my field
To live in a centre that is devoted to helping people become more of who they
are and sublimely wonderful The centre will be owned or rented by me or my
business and will be called the Lifestyle Academy
To travel the world doing the work I love, writing, facilitating inspirational
and changeful events, meeting new people, being ME and a total success because
of it!
To have my own personal development TV show on a network channel
To become a superb conversational change agent
To have lots of adventures!
Goals - Personal
To BEcome truly who I AM from which all these will stem:
To maintain a child-like fascination for the world
To continue to learn until the day I die
To influence for the good, the life of at least one person as a mentor or
friend
To be remembered as someone who inspired others and was a truly unique
individual - as indeed we all are!
To have financial freedom…[able to travel where I want to go, able to eat as I
want to eat and able to help others]
To own, rent or have the use of a house in a very warm, peaceful, beautiful
location close to water for at least 3 months of the year
To run personal growth courses on my friends tropical island resort in St Lucia
by end of 2005
To develop and maintain relationships with people that endure through time...
Interestingly, some of these were written
over two years ago.. and I just updated them, leaving some of the previous goals
as an example of the many sides of how I am... Have you written out who you
are? What's great about you? What is it like when you are just YOU.. and it
all works, cos you do know.. you've got it inside.. just get it out again.. and
as someone says and in the memory it becomes NOW!
