How to Change Your Beliefs About Your Ability to Flirt and Be Loved
Flirting comes from being yourself at your best, loving yourself and giving out
the glow of who you are. What are you like when you’re flirting full on, when guys
are asking you out and girls are giving you their numbers?
What’s true of you when you are at your best, completely and utterly?
You know because, for sure, at some time you have experienced those magical moments.
When you recall how you are at your absolute best and begin to be like that more
and more, is when you become truly wonderful, splendid, abundant! You begin to have
a sense of how you want your life to be. You attract the situations that are right
for you. You flirt like crazy! You get more dates and you find someone special.
Building better beliefs
Our beliefs drive our actions. beliefs also have a way of seeming like reality.
That's their job. One belief is that beliefs can't be changed. This is pure rubbish.
Any belief can be changed. If you don't like the beliefs you hold, change them!
Great flirts live by green-light-go-for-it empowering beliefs. They believe they
are desirable. They believe they are sexy. They believe they bring a little light
into other people’s lives and they believe other people are interesting. Less confident
people are weakened by red-light stop-em-dead beliefs. If you believe you are not
attractive, for instance, you will act as if you are not and you’ll probably look
less attractive to others.
I’m sure you have some juicy green-light beliefs you’d like to have about yourself.
Now’s your chance to create and embody them. Here’s how:
BEING YOUR BELIEF
- Think of a belief you want to have about yourself.
- Create a sentence that affirms that belief.
- Start with either of these two phrases:
I can ...attract great dates
I am ...a hot sexy guy
- Now say to yourself: ‘When I am at my best, I can/am [your belief].’
- Now think of someone who you believe has that belief about themselves or acts
as if they believe something similar about themselves. For example, if you want
to be more raunchy, choose your favourite raunchiest pop star or actress.
- Pay attention to how your role model stands, moves, breathes and acts.
- Stand like that yourself – mimic the posture.
- Say the belief to yourself over and over in your head.
- Say your new belief out loud.
- Continue to stand there for a while with the body stance of this new belief.
Repeat as necessary! The more you do this, the more your body actually takes
on the cell memories of the belief and the more you can step into being wonderful,
literally.
Then, before you know it, it is! This is good news for many reasons, but because
by the time you know it cognitively you are already putting out new signals into
the world, moving acting, even smelling different.
